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When to bend over backwards

When is it OK to bend over backwards?

  - when making a child understand something new. It is not their problem.
  - in interacting with your parents. You exist because of them.
  - in how you treat an elderly person. They can't change fast enough.
  - when you have an irritated customer. You don't know who's at fault.
  - when you have an angry friend or associate. They want to be helped.
  - when you are at the 4-way stop and someone cuts you off. Your safety first.
  - whenever you talk to your spouse or siblings. You live or die by their kindness.
  - whenever you find someone in need of help. Because you can afford to.


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